Turn Signals and Aunties

I was driving the other day and experienced an all too familiar event. As I was waiting to make a left turn, a driver in the oncoming traffic lane came to a stop, stared at me, and then eventually made a left turn. All without benefit of her turn signal. No harm, but it pushed my button.

I have a thing about turn signals. They are the most clear and most easily employed methods of communication between people operating large metal and glass objects careering (yes, that is the right word - look it up) through the world. I am completely at a loss as to why someone would fail to take advantage of this effective, and I believe necessary, mode of communication. Why wouldn't you want to? What are you hiding? Are you too lazy to swipe your hand, or are you unable to make the commitment?

Not 24 hours before this most recent cause for eye-rolling, I had a conversation with a friend of mine who was in a bit of a quandary. She has an auntie who, it seems, likes to buy things for her nephews and nieces and their offspring. I say "it seems" because she has poor skills at offering to treat her young relatives and this is the kind of thing that compounds itself as no one wants to stop on anyone's toes, nor presume too much. This leads to all kinds of awkward behaviors and second guessing that leaves everyone feeling a bit out of sorts.

What do these two events have in common? Incomplete communication. How many problems would be solved if people could simply state their needs and preferences? What does this have to do with Healing Presence?

A question: What do you think incomplete communication has to do with Healing Presence? What do you think causes people to participate in incomplete or indirect communication? And, most of all, why don't people use their turn signals?